I’ve been leading a group of ladies through my 30 day integrative detox program and they are shifting in so many beautiful ways…releasing things that no longer serve them and are creating space for some beautiful things they are calling in. I’m so proud of the work they are doing and how they are showing up for themselves.
Not to say that it’s always easy, because it’s not. Like anything else, when we’re trying to create new healthy habits, it’s really about breaking the habits that were there in the first place and replacing them with the better options. What we fail to realize is that those old patterns of thoughts and behaviors have been a part of who we are for so long, that it’s merely impossible to shift overnight. So many fail at sticking to their new intentions for this specific reason.
It’s not about how fast you can shift, it’s about how you can sustain the small shifts that overtime amount to the magnificent changes you’ve been seeking. The compound effect is real! So today I wanted to check in with you and see how you’re doing with your resolutions/intentions. Have you been committed to them, have you been taking the actions required to reach these goals? Or, have you already fallen off the wagon because it seems impossible or because you don’t feel that you’re seeing results?
HONOR YOURSELF WHERE YOU ARE! This may be one of the most important tips I give you. We focus so much on the end goal, on what we desire or want that we forget to honor where we’re at and how far we’ve come already. You see, when we set out to better ourselves, we’ve already come to the realization that there’s more and that alone is HUGE! So honor yourself and trust yourself enough to move forward.
The second thing I’ll say is this; stop trying to do it all and do it all perfectly! If you’re anything like me, you get all excited at the idea of your goal, you try to go hot and heavy and then the moment you feel you’ve lost momentum, you crash and burn, promising to get back on the wagon next Monday! Take it slowly, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Focus on one thing and one thing only. Focus on shifting into this and doing that consistently. When you’ve got this down, celebrate the heck out of yourself and move on the next.
It’s never about how fast you get to your destination, but rather how good it felt while you were on your way.
The other tip I want to share as I was reading a book recently and loved this idea that was shared was this; when trying to implement something new, “attach” it to a habit you are currently doing automatically. For example if you’re trying to implement a new gratitude practice, you could make a point of going through what you’re grateful for as you brush your teeth. You will come to associate brushing your teeth with your gratitude practice and will no longer forget. If you’re trying to implement journaling, perhaps you start journaling as you have your morning coffee. I thought this was a brilliant idea to help us stick to our new habits.
Lastly, because I don’t want to overwhelm you. Keep track of your progress. So many times, we get so attached to the final outcome that we fail to see how far we’ve come already. I see so many women stop working out because they only worked out 3 days this week and they wanted to work out 6 times. Rather than ripping yourself apart for the shortcomings you see, how about you celebrate yourself for getting 3 workouts in because that’s a heck of a lot more than that wee you didn’t work out at all. Women who are trying to shift their mindset and think they’re failing because today they felt crappy and went down the rabbit hole, what if you celebrated yourself for noticing you’re going down the rabbit hole and choose to pull yourself up in that moment without judgement? You’ve already come a long way in that you now notice you’re going down a path that doesn’t serve you best.
You see, a simple shift in the way we do things can make the difference between giving up because we feel we’re failing or pushing forward because we know consistency is key!
I hope that these tips will help you on your journey to becoming a healthier, happier and most aligned version of who you are. I’d love to hear how you’ve been doing with your intentions and goals. Are you thriving or are you struggling a bit?